Before I began my journey to live my best life, I was simply living a life – there was no “best” about it. I had lost myself in what seemed like an unending cycle of grief and struggles, desperate to find a way to stop swirling out of control and find some peace. I needed to figure out who I was. And being the perpetual student I am, I tried to find myself in between the pages of books, in classrooms, and through others around me. None of it worked (clearly). I was able to find small portions of myself here and there – what I liked and didn’t like, what resonated with me and what didn’t, but I did not yet become myself.
Becoming myself would take much more. Who was I going to be moving forward? Life had changed me, as it changes all of us, and I would never be that person I was before again. That’s okay – that’s growth.
I got quiet and I got intentional.
And I knew that’s what others needed as well, but with the support of those who are on the same journey. Some are more comfortable doing this on their own, but others need some gentle guidance. And I wanted to be that support for them.
So, I created the Circle of Becoming.
Think about a circle for a minute. It’s whole, it has boundaries, it has support, it is all-encompassing. That’s exactly what the Circle of Becoming represents.
We have a group of ten to twelve people to keep our circle small, tight, and intentional. Each person is on the same journey trying to define, and live, their best lives. Each person is trying to become who they were ordained and destined to be. We have one-on-one mentoring sessions, or as I like to call them, intention sessions, with a more individual dynamic to help reach their goals.
I send morning newsletters, with various resources, to make sure everyone feels connected and supported each day. Our Circle also has its own private Facebook group, where we have a group session every two weeks. (We found that once a week is too much pressure, and this is never about pressure, but about supporting you to become more intentional.) In our live chat, we talk about what we are seeing and feeling, and how we are being supported. We hold each other accountable, not allowing the excuses of life to get in the way, and ask questions like, “What can I do differently to help myself?”
This is as helpful to me as it is to you, as I need to remain continuously connected to your needs to support you the best way I can.
Finally, we have quarterly meetups (in person or virtual, depending on those external factors out of our control) for a more intensive opportunity to provide the support you may need.
You’ll also get some goodies and perks in the circle, but mostly you’ll get more of me and others like you who are going to encourage you every step of the way. Think a more individualized connection and more opportunities to grow.
Think back to that circle and imagine it enveloping you in safety and protection. When we dig deep into our cores, into our heart centers, and when we are in the process of becoming who we are meant to be, we are very vulnerable. But when you’re in the circle, we got you – you are covered all 360 degrees!